Written by a man who served as a marriage counselor for 30 years, The 5 Love Languages is a book about, well, love languages. "Love Languages" is a term that Chapman designed to explain what works best for people in a marriage, namely what makes a person feel loved. The 5 languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.Chapman describes that each person involved in a relationship (marriage) has something called a "love tank". When a person's tank is full, they are happy in their marriage, but when their love tank is less than full or even empty they become dissatisfied with their marriage. How do you know whether your partner's tank is full or empty? Pay attention to what your partner nags you about or witholds from you: that is probably their love language. For example, if your partner constantly nags you to take out the trash or load the dishwasher, their love language might be Acts of Service.
According to Chapman, many a marriage has been rekindled and resurrected by deciphering which love language your partner speaks and then "speaking" that language to them and filling their love tank.
Not everyone speaks the same love language, AND some people are bilingual.
It would be ideal for both partners in a relationship to read this book, determine each other's love language, and then use Chapman's tips to fill each other's love tanks.
The terminology is cheesy but the idea just might work. He cites many examples in detail and he encourages that it would give any struggling marriage a boost.
{Maybe someone should forward this book to the Catholic Church to use in place of their Pre-Cana marriage seminar/workshop. A priest lecturing couples on sex and family planning might not be the best method of marriage instruction. Gary Chapman would be a much better, more practical and realistic choice!}
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