Something Borrowed

With all this hype over Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James (yes, I shamelessly read all 3 books in one weekend - NOT my proudest life moment), names of suggested actors to play Christian Grey have popped up all over the Internet. In this flurry of names, there was one that I did not recognize - Colin Egglesfield. After some fast searching, I discovered he played the role of Dex in the film version of Something Borrowed by Emily Giffin. I had seen the film awhile ago, but borrowed it from the library to refresh my memory. Oh yes, I thought, that is Christian Grey. I was entertained by the movie, but thought I should read the book, too. So, off to the library I went and two days later I finished reading. Which brings me to the actual purpose of this entry:

I enjoyed the movie MUCH more than I enjoyed the book. This is rare for me because I am almost always disappointed in the movie version of a book. Neither Rachel nor Dex struck me as likable characters in the book. Rachel exhibited low self-worth and extreme neediness to be loved by Dex because she believed he would make her life complete and bring her the happiness she's always wanted, and Dex was an arrogant, spineless jerk that took advantage of Rachel's crush. Darcy was the only character that seemed to be consistent in both the book and the movie: center of attention, completely self-absorbed, and competitive (although, I hate when they cast characters that don't fit the physical description of the book - Darcy had dark hair in the book, just like Dex, and she was supposed to be show-stopping beautiful). I liked how the movie eliminated Hillary's characters because, to be honest, she wasn't very memorable. I wish Emily Giffin had cut Hillary and left Ethan as Rachel's confidante, conscience, and advisor. In the movie Ethan had a wit to him that added an element of humor to the scandalous affair taking place between Rachel and Dex, but he couldn't fulfill this role as a distant party living in London in the book.  I am most certainly not a proponent of lying, cheating, and scandalous affairs, so I wouldn't say that I loved the story. However, I think Giffin hit on a topic that is quite prevalent today. I did feel bad for Darcy throughout the affair between Dex and Rachel, until it was revealed that Darcy was also cheating on Dex. I think this was the only redeeming quality of the entire snafu, and it allowed Rachel and Dex to be together without guilt looming over their relationship. As for the friendship between Rachel and Darcy, I didn't really see how they maintained a friendship to that point. Although, that relationship was clearly the reason Rachel had been unable to find happiness - she was constantly doting over, appeasing, and answering Darcy's every beck and call. That relationship really needed to change (in this case, end) in order for Rachel to grow a backbone and live her own life and for Darcy to become more self-reliant instead of relying on Rachel for all of life's decisions.

So, there you have it.

Explosive Eighteen

I haven't read very many of Janet Evanovich's Stephanie Plum series, but I have enjoyed the ones I've read. This one was especially hilarious! It's rare to read a book where I'm laughing out loud on almost every other page. These characters and the situations they get themselves into are unbelievably funny. It's an easy, entertaining couch read - perfect for a snowy Sunday! Recommended!!

The Autobiography of Mrs. Tom Thumb

I wasn't really sure what to expect when I began reading this book, but the desciption piqued my interest. It was one of the first library downloads I added to my new kindle. The story (because it is not a true autobiography) is very detailed and captivating, although it is a long book (I've been reading it for weeks and my kindle tells me I have only read 52% so far!).

My husband and I used to watch the TLC show "Little People, Big World" and absolutely LOVED it! This book also focuses on the life of a particular little person, Lavinia Warren Bump, from the late 1800s. What especially captivates me is the character of P.T. Barnum, showman and owner of the American Museum (and later creator of the circus), and his relationship with General Tom Thumb, a.k.a Charles S. Stratton, and Lavinia "Vinnie" Warren. The author, Melanie Benjamin, really brings these historical characters to life in this novel, which is well crafted and written in a style that makes the reader appreciate her use of words. I am grateful to be reading this on my Kindle Touch because every page contains at least one word that needs to be defined. I am hoping my vocabulary will improve as a result!

If history interests you, particularly the time of the civil war, then I believe you may enjoy reading this book. It certainly has given me a new appreciation for little people trying to live in a big world.

Boundaries: When to say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Well, let's face it. We all come in contact with people who would love to take control of our lives. They want us to be certain places at certain times, they expect us to behave in certain ways, they expect us to understand them, to cater to them, to do favors for them, and the list goes on and on. It can be exhausting trying to please the people in our lives. The boss wants us to chair a committee, lead a project, take on an extra duty. He asks, we feel obligated, we say yes even though we really don't want to do it. We are afraid to say no. Why?

This book suggests that we are all exposed to behavioral patterns from an early age that shape our beliefs and thoughts. We take those with us into adulthood, even if they don't serve us. As a result we become anxious, stressed, depressed, ultimately feeling that we have no control over our own lives. So what to do?

Learn when to say yes and how to say no. Similar to how we build fences to define and protect our property/yards, it's beneficial to learn how to protect our lives and personal space by establishing boundaries for those we come in contact with, otherwise we risk becoming doormats and stretching ourselves so thin that we may feel we lose sight of who we are as individuals. It's ok to say no and still maintain personal relationships. Actually, personal relationships can be enriched by establishing boundaries because it allows us room to grow individually, which in turn helps us to deepen and strengthen our relationships because we have more to give (since we're not giving all of us to everyone that demands/expects it) to those that we choose to share our life with. It's empowering to be able to choose who gets our time.

Overall, this book gets just an 'okay' vote from me. It is laden with biblical references that seem forced and often irrelevant. Connections were unclear or non-existent. In my opinion, the book would have been better if the biblical references were removed. So, if/when reading, focus on the deeper content.

The Peach Keeper

by Sarah Addison Allen

I REALLY enjoyed this book. The story was a reminder of the importance of friendships and how TRUE friendships, though they might fade, never truly disintegrate. Real friendships grow roots so deep that they last for a lifetime.

Some SPOILERS beyond this point!

This story is really about friendship and the lengths that a person will go to to defend the foundation that friendship is based on. Agatha's decision to help Georgie through a difficult situation reveals the love she felt for Georgie. Even in her old age, even after she and Georgie's friendship seemed to slip away, she was willing to lie and take the fall for Georgie's teenage actions. Agatha's promise transcended time and years of broken friendship. The peach tree that grew over Tucker Devlin's gravesite seemd to represent the secret that Georgie and Agatha shared and kept for many years. The removal of the tree and the revealing of Tucker Devlin's grave represented the release of that secret because it was time for Willa and Paxton to know that part of their history so that they could create the lives they wanted for themselves.

I highly recommend this book.

Making Your Thoughts Work For You

by Dr. Wayne Dyer and Byron Katie

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Wayne Dyer


I think the message presented makes a lot of sense, and it goes along with the quote, "Change your thoughts, change your life." (Also a book written by Dyer)

It seems that our world has transformed many of us into fast-paced workaholics with many technological advances (iphones, laptops, texting, instant messaging, email) that provide numerous conveniences. Unfortunately these conveniences ultimately funnel more feelings of stress into our lives, along with feelings that we are not accomplishing all that we should. I think Byron Katie's "work" could be instrumental in helping people to look at their thoughts in a different way than they are used to. As the observer, it becomes easier to turn those thoughts around, making them work FOR you rather than against you.

I got this from the library....worth checking out!!

Sarah's Key

This book has been on my list for awhile now, mostly because of its Paris setting (I'm in love with Paris and the French language), and partly because of its subject matter: Nazi-occupied France and the deportation of Jews. As a teacher of World War 2, it's helpful for me to research and gain further knowledge of that particular, though extremely sad, period of time. Prior to reading this book, I had no knowledge of the Vel' d'Hiv roundup that occured on June 16, 1942, nor did I ever learn about the instrumental role the French police played in these tragic and inexcusable events. My leisurely strolls through the Marais in Paris certainly would have been different for me had I known then what I know now.

In the book...

Sarah lives with her mother, father, and brother in Paris in 1942. One summer night while Sarah is sleeping there are a series of knocks on the door, followed by voices that indicate it's the police. Sarah quietly scampers to her mother's room to wake her, while her father hides in the basement and her four-year-old brother sleeps in the bedroom. Her mother answers the door to French police that demand she pack clothes and leave with them immediately. Through tears, she does as she's told, and Sarah helps her brother into the closet hideout they play in. She makes sure he has water and a flashlight, and then locks him in and puts the key in her pocket. She promises she'll come back for him soon, and she knows her father will find him once the police leave and he can emerge from the basement. But things don't happen exactly as Sarah has imagined, and soon she, her mother, and father, are in the Velodrome waiting with the other Jews that have been torn from their homes in the early morning hours. What will happen to her brother?

The very short chapters alternate between Sarah's point of view and that of Julia, who is a journalist living in present-day Paris. Julia is American, in her forties, and married to a French man named Bertrand. They have a daughter, Zoe, who is a bit of a smart-ass. Her husband has just purchased his grandmother's apartment in the Marais district of Paris, and he plans to remodel it into a new home for his family. Julia doesn't seem too keen on the idea, but goes along with it anyway. Bertrand is an ass, for lack of a better word. He is condescending toward Julia and is involved romantically with another woman, Amelie. For whatever reason, probably because she loves him, Julia puts up with his despicable behavior and attends to her job at the American French magazine where she is assigned a story on the Vel' D'Hiv Jewish roundup in 1942. Her job will be to find and interview people who remember that horrid day and use facts only in the piece she writes. This is where things get very interesting for the reader. I won't give away the details, though, because this is such an intricately detailed plot. You really have to read it for yourself because any description I would give could not possibly do it justice. Tatiana de Rosnay has created a masterpiece with this novel, one that will stick with me forever. And there's a bonus: I learned something about history that I never knew before, something that I can share with my students, too.

Happy Reading!